Come on be a man! Don’t cry……
Okay! so, here’s a question to all the readers out there-
How many of you have come across this statement?
I don’t know about you all but I have come across this statement so many times that I don’t even remember the number of times I have heard this. Men are human beings and they too have feelings. They have the right to express themselves. I wonder how does crying affect their masculinity? Do they have non-functional lachrymal gland? As far as I know, the answer is no.
Expressing emotion is a part of life. Why is it not normal for a man to cry when he is grieved? Bullying or mocking a man for actually crying is subjugation of men, and the ramifications associated with this are even worse. Suppressed feelings lead to anger management issues and encourage anxiety.
Being a man is always about taking responsibility. This does not mean that women do not take responsibilities or women are incapable of taking responsibilities but what I am trying to point out here is, men are ‘expected’ to take responsibility. It is anticipated that a man has to provide financial support to the family.
“The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection.”– Thomas Paine
Why is mother’s love more talked about as compared to father’s love ?
The unperceived sacrifices made by the father takes away his youth and even in the old age his mind is preoccupied with his children’s welfare. He leaves his hard earned money and property for them. Even fathers feel equally protective for their children and even their hearts melt when they hold their babies for the first time.
Sometimes men are so badly sandwiched between their mothers and wives that it really becomes difficult for them to breathe in their own house. If they justify their mothers they are called ‘mamma’s boy’ and if they take their wives’ side then it is said that he is lacking a backbone and has become a putty at the hands of his wife.
Sexual exploitation and domestic abuse of men are overlooked. Yes the number of these type of cases related to men is less compared to the number of cases related to women, but this doesn’t change the fact that the crime didn’t take place.
“To be a man requires that you accept everything life has to give you, beginning with your name.”– Burl Ives
Generalizations have always sullied the entire gender. Why do we forget that all the loving fathers, all the caring sons, all the doting husbands, all the solicitous grandfathers, all the adoring brothers and all the affectionate fathers are MEN.
Let us end the societal stereotypes that discourage men to be expressive because it is human tendency to express. Male gender stereotypes stick a label on the boys suffocating their emotional development and asphyxiating their spiritual growth.