A man being subjected to domestic violence seems unbelievable to us as a society, primarily due to the extreme gender stereotypes that we have inherited for centuries. Domestic Violence as a whole is on-going and continuous in most places across the globe. Society generally assumes that women and children will be the victims in cases of domestic abuse or domestic violence and that men are the perpetrators. In recent years ‘domestic violence’ has been viewed predominately as violence by men against women or partners and children.
“You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren’t alone.”― Jeanne McElvaney
Men who are affected should be encouraged to not to feel ashamed and to come forward and seek help. Violence is violence, turning away a man who is seeking help just because he is a man and not a woman is just not acceptable, because domestic abuse towards men is just as real as domestic abuse towards women. It is not right either way. Most domestic violence cases against men are never reported. Men are taught not to hit or hurt a woman, but if the opposite thing happens then they often are too embarrassed to report a crime against themselves. People don’t believe or don’t even think about it because it’s invisible, no one is talking about men’s domestic violence, no one reacts to this.
The stigma of being a male victim has to change. Most people think its unreal or funny that men go through domestic violence. Society ridicule those men who suffer emotionally as well as mentally. It is an under-discussed issue. If a guy doesn’t defend himself he is considered soft and weak. If he does defend himself he is considered a woman-abuser. Many men stay in a bad marriage because they fear losing their kids in a divorce.
In some cases it has been seen that people laugh when a wife hits a husband because she is weaker, etc but the reality of this is if he keeps putting up with this and tries to restrain her or get caught up in it then it immediately becomes his fault by our society’s culture. There are a lot of men in abusive relationships. They don’t come forward because sometimes people don’t believe them. No one should have to go through this. Men have a difficult time trying to get help and get out of the situation. In this manner they are being turned away from the justice system. This affects their mental health.
“The more that we choose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.”― Russell Wilson
We don’t hear enough about this in the media, news, online etc. The abused men often have nowhere to go. We need to understand that no one is immune to domestic violence. Just like a man has no right to raise hand on a woman, the same rules should also apply to women. Domestic violence isn’t a Sexist thing. It’s a form of abuse on any Male, Female, Child or anyone involved in that household.
Domestic violence can be one of the most difficult types of situations to talk about and to escape from. So, let us keep our prejudices aside and simply encourage them to seek the necessary support and resources to get the person out of their pains.
“Grief does not demand pity; It requests acknowledgment.”― Jude Gibbs