We all know how important children are for their parents and how much they love them. Parents anticipate their child’s arrival with butterflies in their stomach. There are a lot of couple who spend their time reading ‘Parenting books’ because they want to nurture their children in the best possible manner. We often come across tales or quotes referring to parent’s love or compassion, but do we ever think these parents too have the same human system which requires love and support?
How many of you literally know what “Postpartum Depression” is?
Whenever we talk about health we miss out the discussion on ‘mental health’. Even today mental health awareness is overlooked and mental health condition is highly stigmatized. The World Health Organization has estimated that 20% of the world’s population suffers from mental disorder at some point in their lifetime. Having a baby can have unexpected effect on a parent’s mental health. New parents may experience extreme sadness, low energy, anxiety, crying episodes, irritability, panic attack, health anxiety, social anxiety, sleep anxiety, morning anxiety and changes in sleeping or eating patterns due to postpartum depression. Some of them feel as if they are living with anxiety and some times they undergo high anxiety.
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Unfortunately mental illnesses like postpartum depression and anxiety are still taboo topics. People suffering with this don’t know who to talk to because some would simply judge them for being fragile or some would simply ignore their words. Some people think its not that serious. Everyone judges the mom or dad who can’t handle it. This adds on to the suffering and ends up making them feel more miserable because nobody in the family or even their partner understands them. It becomes terrifying and traumatizing for them to go through this.
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.”– Fred Rogers
Some people literally find ‘Postpartum Depression’ absurd because they feel children are blessings and the sight of the child’s face itself makes parents forget everything but we need to accept the fact that each individual has their own set of experiences. These struggling parents too love their children the only difference is that they find it difficult to get accustomed to the changes taking place around them or simply the changes triggering them inside that is their hormone level. Some find it too difficult to balance their sleep cycles while some get too emotional about their work life which somehow got hampered due to their pregnancy.
The real problem is not addressing the problem. A lot of people are reluctant to admit that they are suffering from postpartum depression. They do not want to look weak in other people’s eyes. They want to uphold an illusion of perfection. But inside, they are dying. If you are struggling, please talk to someone. Don’t hesitate to visit a therapist ‘if’ you feel things are going out of control. Start meditating because meditation will provide you with the peace you are looking for. Meditation for anxiety is highly recommended. It proves to be a natural anxiety relief hence it helps in coping with anxiety and overcoming anxiety.
“If we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it.”– Russell Wilson
People need to reach ‘out’ and ‘in’ for support. We should allow space to everyone so that they can show some of their vulnerability because no one needs to feel like a failure. Nobody wants a terrible life, nobody wants to be upset, nobody wants to have a disturbed mind! Understand this and accept this fact so that next time if anyone reaches out to you, you help them heal because they are hurting inside.
Normalize ‘Postpartum Depression’ and Lift the stigma!
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